Power & Compassion Christian Marriage Retreat is the work of Dale Lee [Ed.S. LCPC] & Adi Lee [M.A.], a husband and wife counseling team w/a love for Christ and a passion for helping people.

Love Is A Choice, Not A Feeling

Saturday, March 17th, 2012

Often times couples, after having been married for several years, start to allow the romance and passion of their marriage to fade. They get caught up in the mundane monotony of everyday life… working hard to pay the bills… taking care of the kids… keeping a clean house… caring for aging parents… all of these things and so much more can easily crowd in and distract us from taking the time to love and appreciate our spouse they way we need to in order to keep the romance alive in our marriage.

 

When people find themselves in this type of situation their feelings of love and affection towards their spouse can often get pushed aside and begin to fade or be forgotten. But the truth is, love is not a feeling. Love is a promise. Love is a decision and a commitment that you made when you said your vows to one another at the altar of marriage before your family, your friends, and God. Love is a choice that you made “for better or for worse…til death do us part.”

 

Love is an action, not a feeling. It is something that you must control, not something that you are controlled by.

 

People who are having problems in their marriage often say things like “I just don’t feel like I am in love with her any more,” or “I’ve just fallen out of love with him.” But when you understand that love is a choice…a decision…a promise, not a feeling that you are controlled by, then you will understand that love is not something that you can “fall out of” or something that “fades away.” Passion and romance is something that we can easily let fade away, when we are not careful, but our commitment to love is something that you can never “fall out of” of give up on.

 

Because love is a choice and a promise it is something that you cannot give up on or choose not to do. It is something that you must fight for and something that you must take drastic measures in order to preserve and keep alive. It is something that you plan for and budget for and treat the same way as you would any other important thing in your life like your job or your hobby.

 

This might look like setting aside one night each week as a “date night” with your spouse where you go out for a nice dinner, or go to a movie or play, or simply take a quite and romantic walk together down town or in a park… anything that allows you guys to step out of the everyday mundane and focus your attention on one another.

 

It also means you should set aside some time every few months, or at least once or twice a year to do something really special together like a special holiday or romantic vacation. It doesn’t have to be anything expensive if your budget cannot afford it, but it does have to be something that shows your thoughtfulness and care for one another. An example of this could be planning a romantic getaway to a place you have never been before and creating an itinerary that focuses your time and attention during this holiday specifically on one another. Many people enjoy and receive great romantic and emotional benefits from planning a weekend getaway to Power & Compassion’s Marriage Retreat’s in northwest Montana for this very reason.

 

Whatever you decide to do, remember, that love is a choice and a promise that you made to your spouse. Love is not a feeling that you are controlled by or that you can loose or fall out of. It is something that you must harness and control yourself. It is an action and a promise. Fight for it!

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The Importance of Attending a Christian Marriage Retreat

Thursday, February 2nd, 2012

Marriage retreats have been a significant help to millions of people across the globe today. In fact, personalized couples retreats have saved millions of hopeless marriages that were headed for failure and destruction. Marriage retreats require couples to invest time, effort, attention and money but the profit gained through this process is far more valuable not just for the couple but for their children as well.

In marriage, there comes a point where the couple’s interest towards each other tends to wear off and the passion begins to fade. This can be triggered by factors such as pressure in the family, career and personal development, financial obligations and poor sexual activities.

Through the years, marriage retreats have become increasingly important in renewing the passion and romance in the  married lives of couples. Christian Marriage Retreats offer an invaluable support to couples whose relationships are constantly struggling. They provide couples with a temporary yet valuable escape from daily routines which results in a renewal of love and devotion for one another and a more harmonious, exciting and enjoyable marriage life.

With the help of a professional marriage counselor, personal and family problems are tackled thoroughly and solutions are found and applied in a practical and effective manner. Basically, personalized marriage counseling is specially designed to provide long lasting and positive solutions to issues such as anger, stress, anxiety, depression, affair prevention and repair, interpersonal difficulties and spiritual, emotional and physical intimacies. When these problems are left unresolved, it can negatively affect the quality of relationship of the couple. In the long run, this can trigger the both parties to concur for a divorce or annulment. When this happens, children are left at the losing end of the equation.

More often than not, marriage retreats stimulate couples to create a conversation which can bring about a number of benefits to their relationship. In fact, it provides a good opportunity for them to talk about their marriage and problems. Furthermore, a retreat allows the couple to evaluate themselves and formulate concrete and long lasting solutions to their imperfections. With the help of a professional marriage counselor, the couple is able to open up, share their feelings and disclose their sentiments and emotion with one another more freely.  Keeping those feelings bottled up inside can result in frustration, mistrust and other destructive behavior, so it is important to open up and communicate about what is on your heart.

Marriage retreats also allow the couple to appreciate their relationships and rather than focusing on the negative, find reasons why they should make the marriage work. It serves as a good reminder about the vows that they made, towards each other during their wedding ceremony. Marriage retreats are also good opportunities for couples to express their commitment and lifelong relationship with each other.

There is a common misconception that marriage retreats are only for couples whose relationships are struggling. But this is not really the case. Marriage retreats are also beneficial to married couples whose relationships are going along smoothly. In fact, marriage retreats offer valuable opportunities for couples to transform a good marriage them into a great marriage.

Marriage retreats provide couples with a great deal of motivational forces to work with their marriage instead of letting it fall apart. And most importantly, a Christian marriage retreat with a professional counselor allows a couple to renew their bond of love for each other and establish God as the center of their marriage.

 

For more information on the Christian Marriage Retreats provided by Power & Compassion Christian Counseling, visit http://www.ChristianMarriageRetreats.net

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Three Tips For Strengthening Your Marriage

Saturday, November 19th, 2011

Marriages start out with a “till death do us part” but sadly those words hold very little meaning in peoples hearts and minds these days. Today it seems to be that most people live by the philosophy of “till major argument or disagreement do us part”.

This is a sad reality in our world today, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Marriage is not just a bond that is to be honored when everything is bright and sunny, it is a commitment to love and care for your spouse through the good times and the bad, when the skies are sunny and when they are gray.

Below are a few tips to help you keep your marriage running strong and the romance alive.

  1. Share the responsibility of marriage and don’t allow yourself to become complacent.Remember that even though some things may have changed, and you may be going through a rough time right now, your spouse is still the same person that you fell in love with, and the same person you made a commitment to love and care for for life…the same person for whom your heart skipped a beat every-time you saw one another. With time, marriage can become monotonous and boring as you get entangled in all the responsibilities of everyday married life. Children can complicate things even more. But the truth is that the responsibilities have always been there, it is only your perspectives on the responsibilities of marriage that have changed. Remember that a marriage is a two-way street. The responsibilities of a marriage are something that you must share equally with your spouse in order to keep your relationship healthy and strong. Don’t allow yourself to become complacent and don’t start dropping the ball on your responsibilities in a marriage. Just because you have put a ring on their finger doesn’t mean you should stop trying to ‘win’ the approval of your spouse every single day just like you used to do when you were dating. One way to do that is to remember to stay faithful to your responsibilities as a companion and marriage partner to your spouse and your family and go above and beyond to make them feel loved and comforted.
  2. It’s never too late to impress.When was the last time that you wanted to look good (i.e. good and sexy) for your partner? If you cannot remember the answer to that question, then its time to suit up… Remember that spark…that special chemistry that you used to feel when your spouse would dress up in a special outfit, or in their best cloths, just because they wanted to look good for you. It is not too late to invoke those same feelings of love and excitement in your spouse today. Step outside the box and outside of your comfort zone and make yourself look good and sexy for your spouse. Whether that means putting on your ‘sunday best’ for a night out on the town, or putting on some sexy apparel for a ‘special night in’ you might be very surprised at what an impact this simple act can have on your relationship with your spouse.
  3. Go on a mini-honeymoonWe all start to take things for granted when we get too used to a situation. Don’t allow this to happen with your spouse. It is so important that you never take your spouse for granted. A good way to ensure that that does not happen is to plan some special time away on a regular basis to do something special with your spouse. A mini-honeymoon if you will, at least once each month. This can be something as simple as a nice evening out at your favorite restaurant, or a weekend getaway to a romantic resort somewhere. It doesn’t have to be something where you spend a lot of money either, some of the best memories that we all have in life are from the times that we allowed our imagination to run wild and did something unique and out of the ordinary. The idea is to make your spouse feel some love and excitement. You want them to recognize that you have taken the time to design a little ‘getaway’ that is just for them, to show them that you still care.

Learn more about ways that you can build a stronger relationship with your spouse and help to fortify your marriage by visiting http://www.christianmarriageretreats.net

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