Marriage just like every other area of our lives has certain laws which must be recognized and adhered to in order for it to work and be successful. Why is it that we recognize the existence of these infallible laws in other areas of our lives, and we never question their dominance or try to fight against them. However in our marriages we spend so much of our time trying to deny the existence of the laws of a happy marriage relationship, and we are constantly fighting to have our own way. We somehow assume that in marriage we can rise above the basic laws which are necessary for a happy marriage to exist. We try and reinvent a scenario in which our own selfish goals and desires can be glorified, and we try to deny the existence of the basic laws which are required for a happy marriage to exist.
Laws That Lead To Success
Marriage is not much different than all the other areas of our lives where certain laws are required for success.
Let me ask you a question. If you were put in charge of the aerospace engineering department at NASA, and it was your responsibility to oversee a mission which was going to send multiple people into space to work on the International Space Station, how would you handle that job and that responsibility? We all know that a successful aeronautics program is governed by a set of very specific laws and principles which must be practiced and followed in a very specific manner in order for our mission to be successful.
We know by studying aerodynamics that there are certain laws in physics which must be adhered to in order for our spaceflight to be a success. In order to get an object like our plane or space shuttle to create movement and energy and transform it into a force which can defy gravity and fly into space and back again safely, requires our adherence to the laws of aerodynamics.
Applying The Laws Of Aerodynamics
First of all we understand the law of Drag, which states that objects which push a lot of air such as an open parachute, create a lot of drag or resistance which is a direct contradiction to what we are trying to achieve. In order to get our airplane to fly we want to reduce the drag is much as possible, so that our airplane moves quickly and effortlessly through the air with very little resistance. Secondly we understand that we must overcome the law of gravity if we want to fly. Gravity is a very powerful force. In fact it is actually a law too, which prevented man from being able to fly for thousands of years. It wasn’t until the laws of Thrust and Lift were better understood that we were able to figure out how to overcome the law of gravity and create machines which have the power to defy gravity and create flight.
Thrust is the forward movement of our plane created by the jet engines or the propellers. But thrust in itself is not enough to make our airplane fly, we also must understand and apply the laws of Lift in order to get our airplane off the ground. Lift occurs when the air below the airplane wing is pushing up harder than the air above it is pushing down. It is this difference in pressure which enables our airplane to fly. Our airplane wings are shaped in such a way that air moves more quickly over the top of the wing than it does beneath the wing, which results in an upward push…or lift.
The point I’m trying to make here is that in order for our flight to be successful, we must adhere to and live in accordance with each of these laws of aerodynamics. In fact, it is absolutely crucial that we have all of these laws working together harmoniously if we want to achieve our goal and accomplish flight.
The Laws Of Success In Marriage
The same is true with marriage. There are certain laws which must be adhered to. There are certain laws which we must live by if we want our marriages to be successful and happy. The laws of marriage are things like love, patience, kindness, sincerity, trust, communication, being attentive to your partner’s needs and desires. Why do we think that we can ignore these laws of love and marriage and still manage to maintain a happy and fruitful relationship?
Our marriage is much like the spacecraft mentioned above. Each of the laws of marriage have got to work together harmoniously just like the laws of aerodynamics, if we want to achieve success. If any of these laws are violated then you and your spouse run the risk of going into a tailspin and crashing in a spectacular fashion.
Struggles Are Not An Excuse To Quit or Give Up!
Now let’s revert back to our aerospace scenario for just a moment. If something went wrong with our aircraft prior to our mission launch what would we do? Would we throw our hands in the air and say, “See I new it, this thing just isn’t working.” Would we be so quick to give up and call the whole mission off? Of course not. We would get back to work! We would remedy the problem, and we would continue marching forward towards our goal. Failure would never be an option with our space mission, so why would we ever consider it to be an option in our marriages?
When things go wrong in your marriage, and I guarantee you that they will. It is not a time to give up and quit your mission. It is simply a time to get back to work. It is a time to reevaluate where you went off course. It is time to recognize which of the laws of marriage you have not been living in accordance with. It is simply a warning signal that you need to right your course.
Your marriage is the biggest and most important mission you will ever embark on in this life. Treat it with the respect that it deserves. Check yourself and make sure that you are living in accordance with the laws of marriage. If you are not then evaluate your behavior to determine which of the laws you are not living up to, and make the necessary adjustments in order to get back on track and begin loving your spouse the way that you promised that you would when you first gave your vows.
Recognize that there are certain laws that govern how we must pursue a healthy marriage and relationship. And just like a flight into space, if we want our marriage to be a success, we must learn to live in accordance with those laws.
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