Power & Compassion Christian Marriage Retreat is the work of Dale Lee [Ed.S. LCPC] & Adi Lee [M.A.], a husband and wife counseling team w/a love for Christ and a passion for helping people.

Our House is Your House

Sunday, May 29th, 2016

Marriage Retreat CabinThere are critical transition points in a relationship when only the most qualified professional help can guide you to fulfill, the awesome potential that God has for your marriage.

 
What the enemy fears he tries to destroy. Marriage is a place where God can put on display his intense love for his children, as they partake of covenant in a passionate love relationship between a man and women.

So why choose us?

Because we are a married couple vested in your success. For this reason, we have worked relentlessly for many seasons, in the trenches of marital discord and know the way through. We have helped take the burrs and heal the wounds of couples in despair.

We have delighted in the joy of seeing hearts be healed and watching couples learn to become a team, with the knowledge necessary to maintain the marriage they desire and that God intends for them. Our cabin is in a delightful meadow surrounded by old growth trees. It is a place of incomparable peace. Most couples say that when they enter the cabin they feel the weights on their shoulders begin to roll away.

We practice the Spanish saying of “mi casa tu casa” Simply stated “our house is your house” . It is a place of hospitality, were together we enjoy fellowship and we see our Lord come and do the transformational and healing work that only He can do.

Come to our 3-day intensive retreat, we love to meet you as we encounter the Lord together.

The international airport is only 20 minutes away from your retreat cabin door and Glacier National Park is your next door neighbor.

Interdependence: The Secret To A Healthy Relationship

Sunday, October 13th, 2013

married coupleRomantic relationships are a peculiar thing. They can be deceiving at times. They can be painful and difficult. They can be heartbreaking. They can also be comforting. They can be fulfilling. They can be the source of ultimate joy and satisfaction in our lives.

How can one connection with one human being be so dramatically different and emotionally diverse? How can a relationship be, at one moment so ideal and so full of elation, and at another moment be the source of our greatest heartache and misery?

For the answer to that question, we need to dive a little deeper into the ingredients that make up a relationship. We need to discover what makes a relationship spark and develop. Only then can we discover how to make it persist and grow stronger.

What causes a relationship to spark?

To answer that question, lets first consider what a relationship is. A relationship begins when two human beings find themselves at a point where they start to recognize that they have an inherent need for one another. When a person begins to feel an emotional connection for another person of the opposite sex… a connection that is so strong it causes them to start casting aside their own desire for independence and replacing it with an interdependence on this other person, that is when a relationship is formed. It is that point when a man or woman transitions from being concerned only about their own well-being, and realizes that his/her true happiness and contentment is actually dependent upon the presence and acceptance of this other person in their life.

This interdependence is a good thing. It is what makes relationships work, it is what makes relationships strong and healthy. When this interdependence is functioning correctly, under the glow of love and affection, it causes us to act unselfishly, it causes us to desire not only what we can get from our partner, but also what we can give to them to ensure that their needs are being met.

For this metamorphosis to occur. For a man or woman to transition from a self-serving life of independence, to a cohesive life of interdependence, there are several ingredients that need to be present.

First of all there must be attraction. Attraction is that spark that fires when you first look at that person of the opposite sex, and you like what you see. The hair color… the flirtatious eyes… the shapely body… the way that they carry themselves… or their confident nature. Whatever it is that makes you stand up, take notice and say…”wow… this one is different than the rest, and I have to find out more”! Attraction is the sensual ingredient in a relationship.

The second ingredient is acceptance. When attraction is felt by both sides of a burgeoning relationship, it develops from a platonic friendship into a deeper relationship of romance and intimacy. As intimacy develops and a couple begins to spend more and more time together talking, and sharing their thoughts and emotions, their connection grows deeper and the walls that they had built up begin to crumble as they begin to develop feelings of love for one another.

The final ingredient is gratification. When true acceptance of one another is felt, love becomes more than just a warm fuzzy feeling, it becomes a yearning to satisfy and fulfill the needs and wishes of your significant other. Attraction and acceptance escalate into desire and passion and you soon find that you cannot find fulfillment unless you are in the company of your partner. That is why dating couples spend so much time together, their passion and desire for each other is high and the only way that they can satiate that desire is to be in each others company.

A relationship of interdependence is a healthy relationship. A relationship that is balanced and interdependent means that both individuals have a healthy need and desire for their partner, both for what they can receive from them, as well as what they can impart to them. A healthy relationship should balance somewhere in the middle of dependency and independence. There should be a strong need for the closeness and intimacy of your partner, but that dependency needs to have the counterbalance of independence where you have a life outside of your romantic relationship as well. Perhaps spending some “me” time with your friends, or just some quiet time alone pursuing your own hobbies and passions.

Too strong of a dependency in your romantic partnership can lead to unhealthy bonds. A relationship in which one or both individuals becomes too dependent upon the other for their happiness and fulfillment will often results in one of the partners in a relationship becoming overwhelmed and defensive and looking for an escape. Or worse, it could escalate into obsession and abuse.

Why do relationships die?

We have established now, how relationships are formed. We know that it is a progression from initial attraction… to mutual acceptance… to ultimate gratification. So it stands to reason that if we let our guards down, or become to “familiar” with our relationship and start taking it for granted, then we could inadvertently allow that process to start moving in reverse order. And when that happens, the relationship begins to crumble.

When two people become complacent in their relationship and begin taking one another for granted, they will often begin to progress backwards allowing their interdependence to fade, and letting their love and passion die out. When this happens the promises and commitments that you made at the altar begin to feel distant and shallow. Your desire can begin to decay into annoyance, and your love can degrade into hate.

A progressive dissolution from interdependence to independence by one or both partners in a marriage, will most likely result in one of three inevitable outcomes.

Acquiescence: A scenario where neither partner receives much physical or emotional pleasure, from the relationship anymore, but the two stay together merely for the sake of their children, their beliefs, or to save face in their community, etc.

Adultery: One of the individuals in a marriage breaks their marriage vows and seeks to have their physical and emotional desires fulfilled in a relationship outside their marriage.

Divorce: Frustrations, arguments and resentment boil over into anger and hatred, and one or both individuals in a relationship decide that their marital problems are too complicated to work through together and instead they choose to cut the knot and separate regardless of the consequences.

This dissolution from a healthy relationship of love, respect and interdependence to one of passivity, resentment and independence should never happen, and it doesn’t have to. The key is to…

1. Always keep your priorities straight: (God first; Spouse/family second; Yourself third)

2.Realize that love and respect for your spouse is not always going to be something that comes easy, or something that you “feel” like doing, but it is what you are called to do, and it is what you vowed and made a commitment to do at the altar. You will find that as you walk out that commitment, and love your spouse, even during the times that they may not deserve it, and you don’t feel like doing it… if you just continue to love anyway, soon those actions will reciprocate and you will find that those feelings of love and affection will return.

3. Stay vigilant. Keep an eye out for the weeds of discontentment, passivity, and anger and make sure to pull them out and throw them away while they are still small and manageable. If you are having doubts or problems with any area of your marriage relationship make sure you sit down and talk about it with your spouse while it is still a relatively small issue. Don’t point fingers, condemn, and place all the blame for the situation on your spouse. That will only escalate and elevate the problem. But be sure to let your spouse know how the situation makes you feel and that you want to work through it before it creates any strife in your relationship.

Finally, if you feel that you or your spouses love and affection in marriage is starting to slip away, don’t be afraid to start over.

Take a look at who you are now and ask yourself honestly, am I being the same person towards my spouse that I was when we were young and in love? If you need to change the way you dress or act around your spouse or in order to bring the attraction back, do it! Rekindle the attraction that you once had for each other.

Be sure to schedule ample amounts of time together…dating, communicating, taking walks together, holding hands and touching each other. This will serve to reestablish trust in your relationship and the kind of acceptance that you need for a healthy interdependence.

Sacrifice your own agenda now and again to bring benefit and gratification to your spouse. When you stop being so concerned about always getting your own way, and start loving your spouse by putting their needs first a little more often, you will be surprised the impact that it will have on both their emotions and your own.

To learn more about how you can build a strong foundation of love and interdependence in your marriage, attend a weekend retreat at Power & Compassion’s Christian marriage retreats in northwest Montana. Not only will you love getting away to Montana for a couple of days, but you will come away with a greater love and respect for your spouse and your marriage as well. Call 406-253-6427 for more details or visit http://www.ChristianMarriageRetreats.net

Marriage Retreats: Experience the Power & Compassion of an Intensive Marriage Retreat in northwest Montana.

Sunday, April 29th, 2012

Marriage Retreats, couples counseling retreats, relationship retreats, marriage counseling retreat… the names given to these powerful relationship building events are many, but regardless of the name you give them, the important thing to remember is that they are revolutionary, life-changing events. This is especially so when the technique and method of counseling and therapy that you receive during the retreat keeps God as the center focus of the healing and restoration process. That is the main focus and practice at Power & Compassion’s exclusive marriage retreats in northwest Montana. These multi-day marriage retreats bring together the power of intensive marriage counseling, the healing restorative power of a deepening relationship with God, and the rejuvenating power of Montana’s pristine natural beauty into one intense marriage-healing experience that will have a profound effect on your marriage relationship.

 

Attending a marriage retreat with Power & Compassion Christian Counseling allows you the freedom to step outside your normal every-day environment, where you can clear away all the noise and frustration your daily habits and complications which are putting a strain on your marital relationship, and instead gain a new and fresh perspective on life and your relationship with your spouse. There is no better place to step away from the stresses of life and clear your head then our marriage retreat cabin in northwest Montana. (Click here to see photos and more information regarding our marriage retreat location.) Here you will be able to clear your mind and focus your attention and efforts on growing closer to God and each other with the help of your professional counselors and a very powerful and proven counseling and thereputic process.

 

The experience that you will receive from attending a marriage retreat with Power and Compassion Christian Marriage Retreats is beyond words. Many couples have had their lives transformed and their marriages renewed through attending one of these exclusive personalized retreats. But don’t simply take my word for it… read about and listen to some marriage retreat  testimonies from our our past couples to see for yourself! The results speak for themselves.

 

Some of what you will experience at one of our multi-day intensive marriage retreats will include:

 

  • A reawakening of romance and passion within your relationship. – Our specialized couples therapy sessions and individualized counseling sessions wil help you discover new ways to communicate, interact and connect with your spouse in ways that will reignite and rebuild the romantic feelings that brought you both together in the first place.
  • You will discover essential methods and principles that will allow you to build a rock solid foundation for your marriage moving forward, and help you to multiply you feelings of love and respect for one another as time progresses.
  • One of the most powerful tools for building a deep connection and love relationship with your spouse is having a good solid open and balanced communication with your spouse. At Power and Compassion’s Marriage Retreats, you will learn and discover a plethora of tools and techniques for opening up these powerful lines of communication allowing you to connect with each other in a very strong way and these new communication techniques will help you to maintain that connection and grow even stronger within that connection even after your marriage retreat experience is over and you move back into your normal everyday life again.

 

These are just a few of the powerful ways that you will learn and grow when you attend a marriage retreat with Power and Compassion Christian Marriage Retreats. If you would like more information on one of our multi-day intensive marriage retreats, visit our website at www.ChristianMarriageRetreats.net or call us at 406-253-6427 we would love to talk with you about your individual needs and situation so that we might create a customized plan to help your healing process begin.